How to Wipe the Slate Clean With Your Ex

When you have just been broken up with your ex, you find yourself with a lot of questions. What do I do now? How do I fix this? CAN I even fix it, or is all hope lost? Well, rest assured...all hope is NOT lost. This is a completely fixable situation if you know what you are doing, and I am here to help you out in that regard.

To start us off, ask yourself a question: what is it that led to this? You need to come to the understanding that whatever it was that made the relationship go downhill, it has now fallen to you to fix it. Your ex fixed it for himself by cutting you out, so if you want him back you are going to have to figure out a way for things to work...its no fun that you have to be the fallguy, but that is the way it is. Dont expect this to be as simple as one apology, it is going to take a little work.

So I have written this up for you, a quick list of some things you can do to wipe the chalkboard clean and start fresh. Utilizing these ideas will help you immensely in keeping from antagonizing your ex with common mistakes and making him more likely to reject any attempts to get back together.

1) Cut off contact, for about a month. So soon after a breakup, there is bound to be a lot of emotion flaring up and flying around, and things can be said that will never stop haunting you. Giving your ex some space gives him time to cool off and time to clear his head...gives him a chance to miss you.

2) Avoid classic desperation mistakes that typically occur after a breakup. Drunken Dialing and Text Message Terrorism are the prime examples, and it isnt hard to understand why you dont want to do these things. You shouldnt be interested in giving your ex the impression that you are lonely to the point of drinking or desperate to the point of sending a barrage of emails or text messages. Cool off a bit, and let your partner miss you.

3) Make good use of your time apart, develop a plan! Not knowing what you are doing before you do it can lead to as many problems as Drunk Dialing or Text Message Terrorism, if not more! If you need to, seek help in finding a proven system that works for getting your ex back, and follow it to a tee. Organization is your friend.

The no contact rule is for more than just to make sure you dont end up hurting your case even more, its also to help you find time to organize yourself in more ways than just building a plan. Its clear that the relationship had problems, it would not have ended otherwise...so make good use of your time and address any issues that you have control over. Putting forth that effort will prove a good investment in the long run.

This isnt one of those things that just works itself out for the best on its own. You have to guide it to its conclusion, and you need a good plan to do that...preferably one that has been proven time and again to work. There is a lot that can all but ruin the odds of getting him back, but nothing stops that from happening like a tested process.

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